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Are you focused and prepared to receive success? During a recent conversation with a coaching client we talked about taking a more focused effort in taking small and deliberate steps daily to accumulate success daily. I recommended to my client to make a decision to commit to success. I shared what has been a huge benefit for me. I read the Book of Proverbs from the Bible daily as a habit that has been paramount in my daily success. My New International Version Leadership Bible says, “Proverbs is an extremely practical and specific book that challenges us to pursue wisdom in each area of everyday life. This is the book of the Bible you want to read when you want to get in line with God’s common-sense directives and divine will.” The leadership principle is that God offers wisdom to those who seek it through diligent prayer and disciplined effort.
The first through seven verses of Proverbs speak about decision making and how it works. Verse seven says, “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline.” In our world today, we have so many distractions that it is really easy to not make the best decision that is aligned with our purpose. Making the right decisions can be tricky. We must always aim to make the best decision and have faith, it is the best decision for God’s desired outcome.
I also suggested reading Proverbs Chapter 31 which speaks about how self discipline works. Chapter 31 verses ten through thirty-one demonstrates this through the “wife of noble character.” The talking points support the wisdom of self-discipline and leadership.
Proverbs is an excellent book to read when seeking instruction to add value to personal lives and the lives of others. The book of Proverbs is perfect because it has 31 chapters for daily reading and reflection. You simply read one chapter a day and reflect and have a conversation with God about becoming better aligned with His purpose to reveal the will for our lives. Adding this as a daily routine will definitely lead to becoming better than the day before and being prepared to receive success.
In an attempt to build confidence I asked my client for a blessing. It is a privilege and an honor to let others be a blessing towards you. After reading Proverbs Chapters 1 and 31, we discussed the need to become better focused. My client also remembered his pastor telling him to read 1& 2 Samuel of the Bible about “Getting Focused.” This is the blessing I received from the conversation.
Here are the five points I listed and am committed to better focusing on:
What a blessing! To carry out my God given mission adding positive value to the lives of others, I have to become more focused. Deciding to commit to our success we have to become more focused in taking small daily steps which will lead to improvement in any area of your life.
Who doesn’t need to get better at focusing, prioritizing and preparing for the future?
To fully receive the benefit from a blessing one must be able to be focused in effort, action, and faith to fully receive the benefits from a blessing. We must get focused, take a look at each encounter as an opportunity to make ourselves better.
Decide, Commit, Succeed!
Please leave a comment. How do you prepare for success?
Days are expensive. When you spend a day you have one less day to spend. So make sure spend each one wisely.” Jim Rohn
This is a very wise and powerful quote. It helps to bring clarity and importance of each day. The most precious thing God has given us is time. It is up to us to use it wisely. Did you know there are 86,400 seconds in a day? How will one achieve success if one squanders it one second at a time? This is an individual answer. Decide what is important. Commit to what is important. Success is a personal decision and commitment to be carried out each day. Here are some ways to get the most out of each day.
I have found my mission in life. My burning desire is to help and to serve others. I add positive value by listening, coaching, assessing, motivating and designing successful implementation plans that are designed to improve performance in alignment with their personal dreams.
List goals and post them where you and your family/team can see them daily. Having goals are great and in order to achieve goals they also need to be S.M.A.R.T.
Goals need to be Specific. Having specific goals brings clarity and purpose to exactly what we want to get the most from each day. If I were to ask,”What does success look like on an average day?” Your answer to this question will help you achieve success.
Goals need to be Measurable. This gives quantifiable data to show the results of our actions. Having a clear evaluation system of what is important acts as a scoreboard counting good effort and not so good effort. This helps to keep us more accountable making each second of the day more valuable.
Goals need to be Attainable. First, me setting a goal of joining the NBA is not attainable. Second, me dunking on LeBron James in my life is not attainable. We do want goals to bring excitement and motivate us to do more and to achieve more, but they have to be attainable. I’m 5’8 on a good day and don’t have the skill set to join the NBA or to dunk on LeBron James. Having a goal that is not attainable can actually do more harm than good in our efforts to achieve our goals.
Goals need to be Realistic. But, what is realistic to one person is different from one person to another. I think, for my personal growth, goals should not be realistic. Goals should be something that can create an excitement and make us reach way down deep inside to muster all the strength we have. What makes goals realistic is having a plan of action to accomplish the goals. A daily concrete plan makes each second and minute of the day more valuable. The benefits of compounding over time is paramount in achieving realistic goals in our life time.
Goals need to be Time-Sensitive. When will this goal be accomplished? This question must be answered to properly find and give the resources to accomplish it. If getting out of debt is the goal. When will this take place? First you would have to analyze current reality and position to design a plan of action to determine when it can be accomplished. Do you want it to be aggressive or somewhat aggressive? These questions will help determine the time of action and effort that is needed.
It doesn’t matter what your goal is as long as each day your steps take you closer in that direction to your desired goal.
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List your unique abilities, talents, strengths interests and passions. Then choose an overall purpose for your life. For some people, it may take hours to think it through; for others it may take days or longer. Once you’ve honestly assessed yourself, clarify your purpose by writing it down. Then choose a vehicle with which you can serve people that is in alignment with your purpose. Begin living your life with meaning today.
Do you have a mission statement for your life? Did you know that having one will help you make better decisions? It will help you say “yes” when you need to say yes, and “no” when you need to say no.
My personal mission is to Add positive value by listening, coaching, assessing, motivating and designing successful implementation plans designed to improve performance in alignment with personal dreams and goals.
All things are possible through Christ Jesus.
Decide, Commit, Succeed!
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I am in a constant process of becoming. While I am at the feet of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I will lean on His understanding and not my own. I meditate often on how I may be able to be better prepared for the obstacles the crafty devil creates for me to get off track. I will continue to correct and keep moving forward. The Holy Spirit will keep me from being distracted. My mission: Add Positive Value to the Lives of Others.
I have asked God to show me what is keeping me from accomplishing my God given mission in life. It is me, myself, and I. It begins with the battle in my head and sharing my vision with the wrong people.
A personal vision should not be shared with everyone only after identifying the people that can benefit from mission. A definition of vision is: something seen in a dream, trance, or ecstasy; especially: a supernatural appearance that conveys a revelation. Sharing your vision with the wrong people is a waste of time. The purpose of a vision statement is to communicate the purpose and values of organization.
We are to share our mission with others first and then the vision of the relationship. Here is a definition of mission: a pre-established and often self-imposed objective or purpose. After identifying the mission, then one is able to prepare and share their vision statement only with the right people. This helps to set identify the goals of relationship to accomplish the mission. Sharing your mission should be public knowledge because this helps accomplish the mission. Share your vision with the right people.
Make sure your team is clear about your mission or they can unintentionally sabotage your efforts! My personal mission since 2005 is to: Add Positive Value to the Lives of Others.
I have been shown that the devil uses the people closest to us sometimes to get us off track and waste our precious energy in the wrong places. I rather add positive value to the lives of others than waste my energy with the wrong people. I remember my grandmother saying, “Only fools argue.” The devil uses some people to get you to defend your mission and the reasons for doing your God given tasks. It is a waste of energy. When God is with you who can be against you!
Of course people won’t understand all of your actions and they shouldn’t. Unless a person humbles themselves to ask, “How do your actions fit in with your overall mission?” They need not know. Let them speculate and stay in the bleachers watching you live your life and carrying out your God given mission. You can tell them if you want, “You will see,” or “Only time will tell.”
Some people only want to see what they want to see and hear from their own mental model, not through someone else’s eyes and experiences with life. As an example, if I am in one building looking out of a window viewing east and there is another person in another building facing west, we will see things differently. This is a fact—no need to argue—we are in two different buildings set to see a different view. A personal vision received and acknowledge is not a competition with others. It is created by and given by God to whom He chooses. God created us differently with different gifts and visions to serve Him, not worldly things and not to argue over what is seen.
I will not waste my God’s precious time and energy on people not willing to humble themselves to ask a very simple question, “What do you see or how does this action fit into your overall life’s mission or purpose?” It is not worth it!
The devil uses people who want to protect a position. God has a purpose for us all. Using a ladder and it’s rungs as an example, the bottom rung on a ladder has a definite purpose. The bottom rung is to assist a person on their journey to reach higher heights. As God allows me to reach higher rungs on the ladder I will applaud people who will take the first step to go higher and become what God calls them to be. It is not for me to determine. Through the lenses of my personal mission: The bottom rung on the ladder is adding value to the success of others reaching higher heights. This is success! Someone else will view this differently.
I live by faith and not by sight. I live in the creative world where this is abundance not by competing with others. Thank you Father God. I know you have plans for me that I don’t know about. I am preparing daily for each and every encounter to have experiences to reflect on how I can become a little better than the day before. I am in the process of becoming better at identifying the people God wants me to help and spend my time with.
I Add Positive Value to the Lives of Others.
I am praying this verse everyday…
1 Chronicles 4:9-10. 9 Jabez was more honorable than his brothers. His mother had named him Jabez, saying, “I gave birth to him in pain.” 10 Jabez cried out to the God of Israel, “Oh, that you would bless me and enlarge my territory! Let your hand be with me, and keep me from harm so that I will be free from pain.” And God granted his request.
How do you plan to accomplish your mission?
Has anyone ever said this to you? How do you respond? Most of us say, “Yes, I know what makes you happy,” just out of courtesy. No, I don’t know. In my honest opinion, more than likely the person asking you doesn’t have a clue either. It is OK, because, most don’t know what they don’t like until they see what they don’t like.
But asking the question is the start to finding out what actually does make you happy. The good thing about asking a question is that it gives our brain a directive to search for happiness. And knowing what makes you happy is good thing and a great motivator. Not knowing what makes a person happy can cause some serious pain, including injury and damage that will cause long term pain.
You know what makes me happy? My choice to be happy. This helps focus the process of finding happiness in most circumstances.
You know what makes me happy? My personal relationship with God gives me happiness, through the teachings of Jesus Christ. This relationship gives me the opportunity to reflect and be grateful for my freedom to choose to be happy.
What makes me happy? My wife’s happiness, while serving others is really what makes me happy.
My mission in life, that I was called and chosen to do is to Add Positive Value to the lives of others. This brings me joy and happiness.
What Makes You Happy?
Decide, Commit, Succeed!
When called on to improve performance by a friend, family member, or community organization to help solve a problem or improve systems management, there are steps to be followed: (1) Analysis, (2) Design, and (3) Connecting the Design to Development. This is the fourth installment of a five part series for Improving Performance. After a thorough review of gathered data we are able to move on to implementing the performance improvement plan, to add positive value while meeting expectations or goals of the organization. Tomorrow’s installment will complete the steps I go through when called on as a consultant to improve performance. These steps are useful for Individuals, Families, Communities, and Organizations.
The 4th Step to Improving Performance
Implementation is takes place when the performers and organization connect and begin the process of moving toward the agreed upon desired outcome. This stage of improving performance is the most identifiable for performers and organization to the instruction of design—Improving Performance. Once the basics are covered, testing and correcting any found mistakes, the project is about 90% complete. We next move into the most time consuming part of the process—meeting the objectives and evaluating the tasks to deliver maximum performance. This is where the uniqueness of the individual performers and organized systems differ. A person who is committed to improving performance from a level of five may see a large percentage of increase to a new level of eight. Another performer coming in on a level of 8, committing to getting closer to ten, may increase to a new level of nine. Both improved performance, however going from average to above average is more noticeable in the short term than going from above average to stellar. During the implementation stage, educating how to evaluate and measure the performance is required and must be understood in order to minimize frustrations and limit the question, “Why are we doing this again, and how is this going to improve performance?”
While there are actually four levels of evaluation, most times we are involved with one to two at the maximum. In today’s market place, often times we are only subjected to one level of evaluation. The first level of evaluation is reaction. After attending a training session we are given a survey asking basic questions: Was time well spent? Would you recommend this to someone else? What did you like best? What did you like least? Were objectives met? Did you like the way the material was presented? This is similar to being invited over for dinner and being asked afterwards, “How was dinner?” It’s a loaded question heavily favored in the host’s best interests. After eating and drinking, most people usually say it was nice and say more complimentary things—most of us where taught to be hospitable. Once you get home and spend a few hours in the bathroom the gratification (reaction) wears off. And your initial reaction to the host’s question, “How was dinner?” may change after you have had a chance to digest and evaluate the meal. In training sessions this is level one, the reaction survey. It is often times referred to a smile sheet—gauging likes and dislikes of the content, presenter, and room; and according to ASTD (American Society for Training & Development), represents between 72 and 89 percent of how organizations evaluate training—based on reactions.
The level two evaluation, is the actual “learning” part of the training. It is tied directly to the objectives and desired outcomes—the score card relating to the decision to commit to improving performance in the first place. According to ASTD statistics, organizations are only evaluating at this most important level 29 to 32 percent of the time. This shows that less than a quarter of all training is evaluated based on the relationship to objectives and desired outcomes.
Here is an example of an objective: After training, a basketball referee (person, performer, organization) should be able to present three reasons why self-doubt takes away from achieving the best decision based on facts.
With this objective in mind, I would design a classroom scenario to evaluate the task verses the objective: The performer (basketball referee) has just encountered a situation that needs a split second decision based on presented facts. The referee has to make a case for not allowing self-doubt to enter his mind and hinder his ability to make a quality decision based on the presented facts. It is important that you present at least three reasons why self-doubt will decrease the chances for making the best decision.
This example matches elements of the performer’s behavior, condition, and degree to the objective and the evaluation of the agreed upon desired outcome.
During implementation there will always be room for improvement of design because evaluating is and will be an ongoing process—life—which will have to be fitted to the individual needs of the performer’s and organization’s needs. Having open and honest communication allows the Performance Improvement Plan and performer to mature and achieve maximum results. The design plan will always be under scrutiny and there will always be the need for constant evaluation to make sure the reaction to the training meets the desired performance of agreed upon objectives for both the performer and desired outcomes.
Developing a Performance Improvement Plan is essential to increase and improve the desired goals and improved performance of individuals, families, communities, and organizations.
Stay tuned to tomorrow’s final installment topic on improving performance: Evaluation.
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In our over stimulated society many of us have said, “I am bored” or “There’s nothing to do around here.” We have even called someone else boring. How absurd! I know some of us have thought that money can solve our sickness of boredom as easily as a doctor can prescribe Paxil or some other psychosis medication to stop boredom. I am here to share with you, that you really can have fun everyday of your life without spending any currency. Here a 7 Ways to Have Fun and Joy in Your Life: No Currency Needed
- Colossians 3:23, “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as if working for the Lord, not for men.” Is it this simple? Yes it is! I really enjoy bringing positive energy to people and encouraging them, because it is not about me it is about serving others at no cost. Many years ago, I prayed a prayer asking God to use me a vessel to do His will. So when I am awakened each day, He has given me the opportunity to do what I was called and chosen to do. I will share an acronym here: LORD – Loving Others Requires Discipline and it begins with making a decision to love. It is a simple discipline that will bring major joy in your life and many others’ lives too. Make a decision to live a life on your chosen playing field and have fun. Bringing joy to others is fun and doesn’t cost a thing besides a decision. How disciplined are you to have fun?
- Matthew 22:37, “Love the Lord with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.” I try to gently remind people making a decision is half the battle; just like waking up each day and choosing to have fun or to be bored. We have a choice to make and the decision is ours alone. Do we eat of junk that is not good for us and expect to have good thoughts and actions? No, we are what we eat, what goes in must come out. Learn to make heart healthy choices. How can you improve your heart? Learn to make soul healthy choices. How can you improve your soul? Your soul can be improved by learning to make mind healthy choices, which is paramount in our decisions to have fun and joy. How can you improve the thoughts of your mind? Making decisions to have fun and joy is easy and healthy.
- Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will keep your paths straight.” Remember the acronym Loving Others Requires Discipline? Change the, “L” here and put Leading Others Required Discipline. How many times have you asked yourself, “Why?” An answer almost immediately comes to mind, doesn’t it? We may not like the answer, yet we continue to answer the same question, “Why?” Because we want the truth but we don’t like the answer. Our mind is so truth-seeking, yet we only want to hear what we want while trying not to listen to the actual truth we have been living. I feel it’s because our daily actions are where our understanding comes from. Ask this question instead, “How can I understand and learn from this situation so I may learn from it; so I may not repeat the same mistake again.” How can I have fun without spending money when I am self absorbed looking for others or things to give me fun and joy? Making a decision to have fun and joy is easy and exciting and it is free for us.
- Jeremiah 29:11, “For, I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.” Isn’t this great!? Remember, you are a special and uniquely created individual with good orderly designing to accomplish much in your lifetime. It is in your planning so you can be prosperous, without harming you, along with hope and having a bright future. How you choose to have fun is a choice that will have your God appear or disappear from your predestined plans. Having fun and joy is easy, especially when you realize you have been given the right to be prosperous. Learning how to have fun and joy helps bring you closer to your brighter hopes and future.
- Matthew 11:29, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your soul.” From whom did you learn to have fun and joy? I remember growing up, I thought the church folk where all stuffy, no fun, judgmental people. They did not have fun or joy or they wouldn’t have acted like they do. As an adult Born Again Christian, this is far from the truth. I can have fun, and have fun and joy in my life every day; because I have learned that not having fun changes my heart to unkindness and pride and leaves my soul uneasy and weary. It is not a good feeling to have a tormented soul, especially if I was having fun that caused me to become harsh and arrogant. So, I choose to have a gentle and humble heart. I know, sometimes I fall short on the gentle and humble heart part, as some may want me to be. When I do, I then have to seek forgiveness to have peace and rest. I have chosen to learn from ones that demonstrate having a gentle and humble heart with themselves and others too. Having a gentle and humble heart can be learned and can be fun and joyous occasions when you are around people that are accepting of your gentleness and humbleness. Giving of your heart is fun and easy and brings so much joy to your life—you will never be able to say “I’m bored.”
- Micah 6:8, “What does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” Have you decided what you want? There are requirements of leading yourself and leading others. Wanting to have fun and spend no money, leads to choices of fun that requires spending tons of money in the short-term to cause pleasure for a little while, causing anguish in the future. Ask yourself, “For the type of fun I want to have, what is required of me and how will its actions cause me to treat myself and others in the long run?” Having caring, joyous fun causes you to have mercy for others and to be humble with your directing of good order. Having fun comes with a set of requirements that will set you free.
- Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” Remember, we are responsible in leading ourselves. Make a heart healthy decision and the desires of your daily disciplines will take care of themselves over time. Have you asked, “What are the desires of my heart?” You have? Great! Have you asked, “How will I achieve the desires of my heart?” Attaining the desires of your heart without asking for help is not fun or joyous.
I will close with my current favorite quote from D.A. Carlson:
“We drift toward compromise and call it tolerance; we drift toward disobedience and call it freedom; we drift toward superstition and call it faith. We cherish the indiscipline of lost self-control and call it relaxation; we slouch toward prayerlessness and delude ourselves into thinking we have escaped legalism; we slide toward godlessness and convince ourselves we have been liberated.”
I hope these, “7 Ways to Have Fun and Joy in Your Life: No Currency Needed” will help you achieve more success in finding fun and joy in your life on a daily basis. Remember, it doesn’t matter which steps we take as long as it gets us closer to where we want to go. Decide. Commit. Succeed!
In today’s, terror comes out from the set of televisions that feed our minds and leads our . How can one even try to become more than yesterday with having to also manage and deal with self-doubt as well? This prevents so many people from living and going forward to their successes in life because of self-doubt. I do believe fear is different than self-doubt. I use an acronym for fear – False Evidence Appearing Real – it is not real. Self-doubt, on the other hand, is our self-talk creating doubt in our minds preventing us from moving forward. By identifying, knowing, and accepting the fact that you can overcome self-doubt with 5 Easy Steps you are on your way to victory and success.
Here are 5 Steps to Overcoming Self
- Decide what you want. , there are so many options available, and because our decision affects many people too, making a decision really hard to do. For our parents and grandparents – not so much. Their parents did not spend hundreds of dollars to let advertisers in their homes to compete with the must have options of today. I know this sounds simple. The Army slogan: We do more before 9AM than most people do all day. Why? A decision to start their day early and with a purpose to accomplish more than civilians is easy and tips the scale to victory. Decide what has to be done and do it early.
- to your decided outcome. After we have decided what we want, we have to commit to it. For some this may be harder because of all the distractions we have in our lives today. Television blaring, children screaming, dog needing to be let out, and lastly ourselves. Have you ever put actual thought into putting yourself first? I know this can sometimes be really hard for moms. Let’s use the flight attendant’s pre-departure speech on an airplane before departure as contrast for a moment. S/he says, “If the plane is experiencing crazy turbulence breathing apparatus may/will come down. S/he shows you how to put it on and continues to say, “Put your breathing apparatus on first and then help your neighbor.” Have you thought about why it is stated in this order? Commit to your outcome.
- Identify problem areas which may impede your decision. Staying committed is hard especially when we do not make a conscious effort to cure our self-doubt. You know that cell phones, , , neighbors, children and self are all vying for attention. Ask yourself, “What will keep me from managing my priorities today?” Often times we will easily answer without a second passing by and point blame, but whose ultimate responsibility is it to manage priorities? It is up to us to manage them. This simple trick keeps self-doubt at bay and holds us accountable. Unidentified flying objects get a lot of undesired attention.
- Start small and document successes. We want to get a small victory early and build momentum to stack up more victories. Think of the little engine that could — I think I can, I think I can – was repeated over and over again. Small victories started in the mind and didn’t allow any room for self-doubt to enter. What is small to me may be large to someone else. This just adds fuel to the fire of self-doubt. This small one step can be: “I will write my first thoughts down on a as soon as I wake up”, or, “I will wake up 30 minutes before everyone else, so I can have a few moments of quite reflection and set my priorities for the day”. Small records of achievement will have a positive impact.
- Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle. Tip the scale in your favor and don’t let anyone else evaluate your progress without knowing the you are using. Fifty percent of the battle is waking/showing up, the other 50 percent is up to you and how you add to it. What is your grading scale? 0-100 or pass/fail? Pass/fail is really limiting and can grow self-doubt. We are not trying to get perfection. We want to start to evaluate our performance against an agreed upon set of standards. Standards that we have an actual chance of winning. For myself, and when coaching my clients and students, I prefer a 100 percent scale. If 50 percent is where we start, how and where do you want to finish? Scoring, 70 points is 2/3 of 100 points, and remember – this is average on a 100 point scale. Scoring 70 points in the beginning and gaining feedback on performance so I can get closer to 100 points is success! Wouldn’t you agree? Yes it is! Start small and develop and implement your own grading scale.
Decide on being successful today and commit to scoring 100 points on your own grading system. You are on your way to becoming a self-doubt slayer. Self-doubt will always be around; learning how to manage it and to identify challenge areas will keep self-doubt in its place — behind you!
I hope these, “5 Steps to Overcoming Self Doubt” will help you achieve more success in your life on a daily basis. Remember, it doesn’t matter which steps we take as long as it gets us closer to where we want to go. Decide. Commit. Succeed!